Posts Tagged ‘ endurance ’

Test Of Time

Love! It’s something every person desires in some respect and one of the most complex things we encounter in life, even in the midst of it still occasionally asking yourself “what is it? and if it is, am I doing it right?” In the Bible there are two different types of love, agape and phileo (in Greek), which is unconditional and brotherly love. My focus will be on agape in romantic endeavors. Be reminded, I’m no specialist and this is my own opinion and I’m entitled to it :-).

It’s Work And Play. It seems natural to yearn for the positive things in a relationship and I am not saying there is anything wrong with that, but there needs to be a balance. Being realistic isn’t far-fetched, look at your world around you… life happens and it isn’t always “dandy” to say the least. There will be wonderful times and rough times, what you need to know for/about yourself is what you’re willing to put up with.

“I been your baby, and I don’t know why you don’t seem like that no more.. welcome to the new definition of love” -Mary J. Blige

“What about the crazy fights? What about the sleepless nights? What about a brother’s ego? What about the sacred vows? How do lover’s work it out? There’s much more than the tango” -Chrisette Michele

Get Passed Your Past.We all have a past and I always say that it is never fair to hold someone elses wrongs against you against someone else. You can’t play the victim your entire life and you also can’t expect the other person to take the heat for another person. Sometimes it’s a matter of maybe you make bad choices in who you get into relationships with or a plethora (love that word lol) of reasons. Look in the mirror often, don’t point the finger, bend the elbow and point back at yourself first. It isn’t fair to have unrealistic expectations on someone else and you know you aren’t a piece of cake either. Know your limits and truly evaluate if a relationship is something you can commit to before you drag someone else into your mess. A relationship should consists of two whole people not someone looking to be completed.

“Fussin’ and fightin’, we back at it again.. I know that, its my fault, but you don’t understand.. I got memories.. this is crazy.. you ain’t nothing like the girl I used to know” -Omarion

Work It Out. In all relationships there is some level of disagreement. No two people will ever agree on every single thing so why trip when this happens? Love will make you do some silly things at times, but if it’s worth it, hopefully you will do whatever it takes. Sometimes people have never witnessed a succesful relationship and don’t know how to love you and maybe you need to step up and open up about that. Be vulnerable enough to tell them what you want, like, and need. The saying goes “a closed mouth doesn’t get fed,” so follow suit.

“I was always taught to be strong.. never let them think you care at all.. Let no one get close to me.. Before you and me” -Musiq

“Sometimes I love you more than you’ll ever know.. Other times you get on my nerves.. That’s just reality.. No, it can’t always be kisses, hugs, and beautiful words” -Ne-Yo

Is It Worth It? If you are truly all in it, sometimes you have to “take one for the team” and decide, “you know what, it doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong, WE are more important than this” only IF that is your mentality. There are times where you have to stop yourself and say “is who’s right really that important? am I really going to go hours or days without them (that I can’t get back) because I want to be right?” I think that’s petty. Though there are points where you might need to have some time apart for the sake of peace, that’s different and in certain cases, not over foolishness. Grow up.

“Gonna swallow my pride.. say I’m sorry.. stop pointing fingers the blame is on me” -Boys II Men

100/100. I always say I have no interest in a 50/50 relationship, but 100/100. When you are all in, it’s difficult to nitpick about what someone is not doing because you’re loving them regardless, because that’s what you chose to do. It’s nothing like the friendly competition of trying to out-love each other lol. It can be a beautiful thing if you can set aside your selfishness for a moment. Don’t wait until it’s too late to offer your best!

“She said she’s tired that I’m always on the road..Too hard to swallow.. being alone.. She needs someone at night that she can hold.. She must have told me a thousand times before.. Silent cries I use to ignore.. God knows I love her.. Didn’t mean to hurt her” -Anthony Hamilton

“Just copped your girl a brand new Rolex.. But you can never find the time to spend at home.. Thinkin’ it’s gon’ keep her happy.. When time is all she wanted all along.. Searching for what’s right in front of your face.. But you can’t see it” -Usher

“It ain’t all roses.. flowers imposing.. said it ain’t all candy.. this love stuff is demanding.. Sometimes I need a hug..” -Mary J. Blige

-Signed, that’s the thing about love

“..Someone who will put up with the things.. Loving me can bring.. But still be there to see us through.. Someone who would put up with the strange and complicated things.. Cause I would do the same for her too..” -Musiq


Rushing the Sun

This is generation right now! Everything is immediate. I know I have touched on this topic before, but decided to address it from another angle. I hope y’all don’t mind, and if you do, well… get over it (lol)! I am writing this to remind you of the obvious, that each moment is precious and despite of customer service based society, your time is the only thing that you can never be refunded.

Cherish the Moments. As I reflect on times in my life, both pleasurable and unfortunate, I wonder how many of those moments I truly felt alive. I think like “do I think I was really living life at that point?” I know it is common to hear ‘live life to the fullest’ and so on, but I am not one for clichés. I just want to truly live period. I want to take life one breath at a time. Embrace the things that make me smile. I want to grow and grow up. I want to carefully mature and screw up because it’s inevitable. I am at a point despite my fears that I am taking risks and being a little more spontaneous, yet careful at the same time if that makes any sense. (There will be a few quotes form the movie Hitch. Why? I’m glad you wondered: 1) it’s one of my favorites 2) I feel like Hitch’s character took thoughts out of my head 3) and I think it’s relative to this topic).

“Because that’s what people do, they leap, and hope to God they can fly…because otherwise you just drop like a rock, wondering the whole way down, why the hell did I jump? But here I am Sara, falling, and the only one that can make me feel like I can fly is you.” – Hitch

Quality Over Quantity. I tend to repeat myself, a lot, especially if it’s something I’m excited and/or passionate about. One of my life sayings is “once you understand quality, quantity doesn’t move you.” I hold that up to all areas of my life, even if not from a practical standpoint. For example, I know fast food is definitely in the quantity category, but at times I lack patience and just want the bad stuff lol (don’t judge me). I have chosen to be strategic about my decisions and consider their worth. I never want to be at a point in my life where I settle for mediocre just because it was convenient or quicker.

“What if I don’t want fine? What if I want extraordinary?” – Hitch

“Never lie, cheat, steal, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from unwanted company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away.” – Hitch

Clock Don’t Mark the Hours. One of the most foolish feelings is rushing to get nowhere. In other words to hurry and put so much energy into something that either doesn’t exist or wasn’t worth your investment. Certain things are worth careful planning and steady pace. A pet peeve that I bother myself with is waiting for time to “fly by” when in reality it won’t and for me to sit and wait for it to pass is literally a waste of my time (lol).

I am learning to cherish things more. Time is very precious and greatly taken for granted. I know I cannot speak for everyone, but I know I do it, and I also know that I am not alone. Sometimes a sign of checking how valuable your time is to you is evaluating the “waste” in your life and realizing what you may need to let go for your own good. This is easier typed than done, but necessary. I am a work in progress and I am happy with that an I hope you can say the same of yourself. I know sometimes life calls for some spontaneity, but “good things come to those who wait” isn’t an obsolete statement. So remember, yes tomorrow is important, but don’t forget about today. Stop rushing the sun!

“Life isn’t about how many breaths you take, but the moments that take your breath away.” – Hitch

Signed, Teach Me to Wait

“..goodbye yesterday, I can’t take you with me..” – Dionne Farris