It’s Your World

Where is the mystery? What happened to the good ol’ days? I remember when people actually spent time with the people they were around versus merely being in the same room, but in totally different worlds. Everything moves so quickly that we have time for nothing. I am becoming overwhelmed with all of this multitasking. Certain things can be convenient (like online shopping), but sometimes I wonder if it takes the experience out of being out in the world for something as simple as the search for something special when shopping. When it comes to dealing with more pressing parts of life, I’m a little worried.

Hit Me Up. I find it quite interesting how we can go above and beyond to avoid human contact. We drive to places we can walk to and even if we’re in a car with people we cut the music up. We do everything else with our ipods on aka “don’t bother me” shields. We go on social networks all day until the point that we are anti-social to our surroundings. We text or bbm so they won’t call. We tweet or facebook to “keep in touch”. We skype so we won’t have to meet up. And at a last absolute resort we might see another human being, but we won’t be completely there. I don’t know about you, but I don’t like what this has done to me!

TMI via Social Networks. Some of you may remember the days where you saw people and had the opportunity to catch up or you could ask someone how another was doing. Nowadays it’s unnecessary because you can just check their status and pictures and come to your own conclusions. You’re “caught up” and the person has no idea you ever even inquired. The other side is knowing too much about people who you know seemingly well or just casually. This usually isn’t a good look, but in reading people’s thoughts online you see a side that might have never been spoken around you. People you deal with might suddenly turn you off for varying reasons whether you are putting two and two together figuring out who else they are sexing, if they are overly (fraudulently) cocky, if they seem to be interested in someone else and so on.

It’s like social networks have taken the mystery out of having a crush or liking somebody, because as soon as you think “I wonder what so and so is doing” you can just pull up their profile and find out. The salty feeling could come in when you wonder if they are feeling you like you’re feeling them and then you see a status saying something like “can’t wait to see my boo later” and know that the two of you have no plans. Another part of that is when you see people you deal with talking to one another on social networks whether they actually know one another or not and you’re kinda stuck on some Drake sh*t like “I just seen my ex girl standing with my next girl standing with the girl that I’m f*cking right now”. Some things are better left unknown lol.

Wait A Minute! I was thinking about my lack of patience when it comes to just about everything in my world. It mainly started because I put something in the microwave for like 3 minutes and seriously went and found like 4 other things to do until my food was hot. God forbid it not be ready and I would have had a mini mental tantrum. What is this foolishness?! I was watching this interview from Conan O’Brien’s show recently that made this point more eloquently. Although the guy was hilarious (video below), I felt pathetic. He said, “everything is amazing and nobody’s happy”. This is very true. If my internet freezes for a second I have already cursed it. If I have to restart my cell phone I almost panic. This is crazy! Instead of realizing how awesome the technology we have today is (especially in comparison to maybe 150 years ago), I have become an ungrateful adult brat. I am in the midst of checking myself.

Lately I have found myself falling slowly but surely away from social networks for just about all of these reasons (in addition to the drama that has become too constant). I don’t want to completely detach myself because I have actually made some very great connects for networking opportunities, but I find myself at a point of finding a balance to this. I don’t want to live my life with everyone around me looking at the top of my head because I’m texting, tweeting, on facebook, email and so on. People are at the point where they go certain places just so they can post the pictures to show that they were there. How many times have you tripped, burned food, missed something or ran into something because you were so into your cell phone? How many times have you felt like your world was dimmed because your phone died or you forgot your phone? I want to see my people. I want to spend time. I hate talking on the phone so I am going to have to balance all of this out. I don’t want to miss out on life because I have been reading about it.

“It’s very strange when the life you never had flashes before your eyes” -Carrie (Sex & the City)

-Signed, Hey Stranger

    • celmar215
    • April 10th, 2011

    Can u say REAlITY Checked!! This is so exactly what has happened to us. I mean even dinner datesr no longer private! There is always the uninvited twitterverse nibbling at ur plates. This is totally RT worthy!

    • Darnay
    • April 10th, 2011

    LOVE THIS!!!! Definitely hit home…ANOTHER MUST READ!!!!!!!!!!!

  1. Great read as always. This has been going on for years and as the need for social networking increases, so will the decreasing of actual interactions. But if we do decide to meet someone, would it be great to already have information on them? I would hate to meet someone and all the things they said weren’t true so in a way having this access to them can be a positive in the midst of the things you already mentioned. But once again, great read.

    • haitianpatty
    • April 10th, 2011

    Very, very true. This is part of the reason I stopped dealing with social networks in the first place. During that time, I was “forced” to be intentional about communicating with people, doing things like calling and sending emails (I know, crazy, right?!). But it really made me aware on how dependent we’ve become on technology, more specifically social networking. Its pretty crazy. I often wonder about what we’d do if facebook or twitter decided to shut down for whatever reason…can you imagine!?

  2. “I want to see my people. I want to spend time”
    It’s funny because I been feeling this way recently…

  3. This is very true. Social Networking seems to have taken over. I think I’m a little bit in limbo between my life and social networking. There are times when I don’t update twitter for days and not just because I don’t have the time, I’m generally uninterested & I think it came from having days where I spent a lot of time online so I feel like those days have kind of come to an end. I spend more time watching movies when I’m not working than anything else. I use to hate shopping, I would never shop online though. Now I enjoy the experience during my lunch break with my coworker. For me really being around obnoxious teenagers in malls really soiled my shopping experience back in the day.

    When it comes to friends, I’m virtually clueless I don’t even try to visit their pages to see what’s going on for the very reason you mentioned: I simply know who they are so sometimes the things they post leave me like ??wtf?? especially my sisters. So generally I tend to be turned off from visiting their pages, maybe I’m weird like that. But then I see people who update everyday and even if I don’t post, I find even the simplest thoughts that people have to be interesting, sometimes.

    All in all, I hope our world doesn’t turn into one such as was portrayed in “Wall-E”. I’d hate to know that our world is solely powered by technology. While it can be entertaining and useful, I don’t think most of us understand as a whole how damaging it really is.

      • TVhasVision
      • April 25th, 2011

      Shan, I totally agree!

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