Archive for March, 2011

@ ‘ME’ Tho

Culture and everything that surrounds it is constantly changing. Trends come and go. Fashion lasts a moment. Slang is tough to keep up with. Sometimes you have to stop to catch your breath because if you miss a week of some sort of social interaction you are likely a little lost. And with all of this going on, one cannot ignore the influence of the social network, primarily twitter!

The #Dilemna. As far back as AOL days, the internet has given people a type of power that their own world’s may not have allowed. What power is that? I’m glad you asked! That power is the option to be whoever you want, however you want, whenever you want and to go a step further, wherever you want. You get to choose “you” as if you were playing The Sims. For the ones that actually know who you are it is frustrating for lack of a better word and for those who don’t know you and can still see through that online disguise it’s pretty pathetic.

“…no one man should have all that power…” -Kanye West

Price tag|Hash tag. #EverybodyKnows that according to twitter it seems like nobody is struggling. Everybody’s rich and coppin’ this and that. #ButIGotMoreBurberryShirtsThanYouTho. Everybody got their own crib, own car, and eats out at pricey locations serving #FlamingYoung & #Stake&Eggs, but in real life you live with mom, got a squader and eat #RaymondNoodles. Life is so poppin’ that every moment must be twit pic’d. The level of arrogance and false confidence is through the roof. The funnier factor is when you actually run into some of these people in real life and it’s a completely different scene. #DontLikeTheLookOfIt. People acquire fake fans and put other frauding strangers on #PedalStools. People have established teams, imaginary haters/stalkers and fake family members on this site. #ThatsWhenANiggaLostMe. Relationships get complicated publicly from friends to lovers. Jealousy arises then lines are crossed, names get called and dirty laundry is aired. I mean whatever you choose to do is your business, but sometimes I wonder if some of you people are being serious with yourselves?! #Salad

“It was all good just a tweet ago”

#TheThirst. This occurs on both sides. I understand as human beings that it is natural to desire attention from others in some way. Even if you don’t say it, you want people to care at some level, because if you didn’t why use twitter of all social networks where people read your thoughts on things? The issue comes in at the lake where the desperate tweets and twitpics come in, yet get offended when you get hit with a #LonelyTweet or the belief that #YouAHo. People go #L.A.M.B. over showing some skin whether it’s classy or trashy. Personally, I leave it at the screen, because these aren’t my people so it’s entertainment. Long story short, #NiggasWontChill!

The World Is A Stage. #Fact, twitter talk has become so influential (at least in my city) that people began to talk in hash tag, get “twitter gear”, meet to f*ck or fight. We have relevant discussions, we rant, we refer each other to useful products, sex techniques, pull people’s CarFax, send prayers/encouragement, and get fake busy. In my opinion, it’s fun most of the time, but in dealing with people it is only right that it get annoying at times, but that’s probably as far as it should go, however, it gets real, #allegedly. People think they know you, think they know your life and plenty of other things. Subtweets get thrown and words probably unintended are taken personal and all that other mess. Despite this, I encourage you all not to lose who you are for a social site and definitely don’t lose those who are really in your life over it.

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He’ll Be Fine

For some of us, the chase is more intriguing than the actual capture. For others of us, the world ought to be all about the capture. This is only the mere beginning of the confusion that leads to the heightened problem of trying to make one person the former or the latter. It isn’t my job to say who is right or wrong, but I will point out the obvious differences that some people (usually females) love to disregard. You always hear the “he was so great in the beginning” stories, which may very well be true, but if you knew the game you would understand.

“I thought you were the answer to the question in my mind, but I was wrong” -Mary J. Blige

Boys Will Be Boys. A part of me hates that saying, but it is what it is. Most males are only as committed as the moment or their options. A big issue is the delussional amounts of females that think they have magic vagina that will keep a man chasing her. Am I saying that all men cheat? No. What I am saying is that the men that do cheat do not all cheat for the same reasons. You can’t say I don’t love you just because I cheat on you. You don’t see all I do to keep you from knowing the things I do (John Legend). The truth is tough to hear and even harder to swallow (pause), but that doesn’t make it any less than what it is. In many cases, lack of a father, a compromising mother, a lifetime of chick flicks, countless love song albums and chances are you have before you a pretty unstable young woman. A young woman who knows that all she truly wants is to be happy and will do whatever she must to get it, even if she has to ignore the obvious. The signs are almost always already there that this is not something you should get yourself into, but you hope in your heart for your fairytale miracle…

“Boy, I need you to meet me half way if you want me to be with you” -Keyshia Cole (but did he ask?)

Chasing Pavements. There is a grand difference between being wrongfully led on and making entire situations up in your mind. For example, responsibilities of a boyfriend being placed on a man that isn’t yours is creating your own problem. The other side of that is having unrealistic expectations for your partner. These things are irrational and you need to check yourself. Leading people on is shady and at some point in your life you need to learn to detect this, if not then maybe you need to get opinions from those who can because nobody wants to hear about the 25 year old that somehow keeps getting screwed over. Yeah right, but you’re in love like every other week too? If you wanted to be treated like an adult you also need to grow up and deal with adult situations. While all the time that I was loving you, you were busy loving yourself. I would stop breathing if you told me to, but now you’re busy loving someone else (Mary J. Blige). That is a dangerous mindset. I understand your feelings. I feel them. That doesn’t justify your actions. If you were so meant to be, he’d call. He would never ignore you, disrespect you, get at your friends and whatever other trifling drama that occurs. Many just don’t want to accept reality, but that does not mean that reality does not exist. You can’t expect someone that is irresponsible in every other area in their life to do right by you.

“Don’t wanna lose ya. Don’t even own ya. I just wanna stay right here until never dawns, yeah.” -Corinne Bailey Rae

Why Are You Mad At “HER”? I’m riding home in pain again baby, and that don’t mean sh*t to you. You’re currently engaged in an intimate conversation with a young groupie or two. See players only love you when they’re playing games, still I gave my heart to you (Mariah Carey). The arch enemy! The other woman! For centuries this is the beef. It’s comedic. It’s sad. It’s a mess. When it comes to your alleged man messing around, that ought to be an issue with you two instead of you calling, harassing, arguing with, fighting, threatening, stalking the other female. I know it’s easier to trigger the energy to the other party whether or not the person knew about you, but the problem is your significant other (and maybe even you). Leave that woman alone and handle your business. People will only do to you what you allow them to get away with.

“And I try to front like ‘oh well’ each time you’ve let me down.” -Mariah Carey

Don’t get me wrong. I understand every feeling, however, to continually put yourself in those situations are pure insanity and people like that get no sympathy from me. In most cases, more females want to replace everything they never had in life with the love of a “man” and that just isn’t the way things work. It’s tough, because you hope almost every one you meet is the one because you want the search to be over. A big part of the issue is that you don’t do a self-assessment first. Get your own life together before you invite someone else into your messy house. My hope is that all of you put more effort into the damage control (that is yourself) than into someone that could most likely care less. You realize these guys don’t alter anything about their everyday and you change your number, clothes, hair, voice, eating habits, hobbies and affiliations. This is a sad reality. Let “him” go. Don’t be afraid to live better for yourself, because he’ll be fine with or without you.

-Signed, Yesterday I Fell In Love……..

“We said ‘let go’, but I kept on hanging on… inside I know it’s over, you’re really gone… it’s killing me cuz there ain’t nothing that I can do… baby, I stay in love with you… …how we gon act like what we had is nothing at all?”

“and I remember what you used to say…. we ride, we ride until the day that we die”