The Funny Thing About Rain

Life changes like the weather. It can be random, possibly predicted, and occasionally be in your favor. We can plan, plan, plan, but we don’t ultimately get to tell “life” what to do. It is true we can control ourselves and oversee certain situations, but there are many things that come our way that we have no power over, we can only control how we respond to it.

Cloudy, With a Chance of Meatballs Rain. As I said already, life changes like the weather, but not all of us get the same type of weather, even if we are side by side. Rain is usually used to describe the hard times in life, the storms. I had a pastor say years ago that you are always at one of three points in life: 1) about to head into a storm 2) in a storm 3) just getting out of a storm. I guess there is truth to that, I don’t disagree, but I’m also not totally sure, so I guess (lol).

I realize storms are usually looked at in a negative light, which is understandable because  it sucks when bad things happen. I also realize that we need rain, and we also need the rain in our lives, the pain and hardships. I don’t want to go into the cliches we are all aware of when it comes to hard times. Yes, I know “joy and pain go together like sunshine and rain,” I love that song, but it’s saying those things at the wrong time that can ignite a fire in people (personally speaking).

In my experience, the worst things that have happened to me have made me stronger. The things that have brought me to the lowest points of my life and made me wonder was all this suffering worth it. Why? Mainly, because I survived and it was worth it, even when I thought it would never end. I learned to endure when there didn’t seem to be any light in darkness. Storms are not easy, but necessary. I know that some of the rainy days of my life were self-induced. I learned from those as well. I know that I am young. I also know that I don’t want to be afraid to screw up, but this doesn’t mean that I want to live recklessly either. I am still looking for that balance. I may be searching for that balance for a while.

“..if I begged and if I cried, would it change the sky tonight? would it give me some light?..” – Beyonce

“..I was sure by now,God, that You would have reached down and wiped our tears away, stepped in and saved the day.. but once again, I say amen and it’s still raining.. – Casting Crowns

Living a life of no regrets is, of course, easier said than done. I look at my past and know that it is anything but pretty, but then I look at me today. If that was what it took for me to get to the road I am at, then as I grit my teeth, I would do it all over again, if necessary. I have learned that misery doesn’t necessarily always love company. In my experience, when I get to those points I prefer to be alone to get a chance to think and regroup.

“..when I’m lost in the rain.. in your eyes, I know I’ll find the light to light my way.. – Christina Aguilera

Cheap Umbrellas. There are also times when we don’t have to walk alone. These are usually the times when we find out who is really here for us (*Ray J voice* lol), but seriously, this is when you weed out the posers. I am certain that I am not the first, last or 15th (random number) person who was told from different individuals at some point in some way that they would be there for you no matter what. I also am certain that I am not alone in noticing that some of those same people were the first to disappear when it began to drizzle. Those moments impact us and if you are saying they don’t, you have proven my point.

“..on a perfect day, I know that I can count on you.. when that’s not possible, tell me can you weather a storm?..” – New Edition

I read in this book by Dr. Larry Crabb about relationships and he said, “we must never claim that our relationships with others do not affect us deeply: they do.” Just because something doesn’t have a major impact on you doesn’t mean it didn’t do anything to you at all. These disappointments should give you wisdom as to how you evaluate your relationships, that would be my hope, unless you are interested in unhealthy cycles. When you begin to allow people to show you who they are, it lightens the load a lot. Personally, I experience this a lot when I meet new people (particularly males, but I digress lol), but male or female, it happens! Notice our circles flourish when it’s all good, but my how the crowd scatters when the climate is altered. Lest we forget, in the words of New Edition (lol), “..sunny days, everybody loves them.. can you stand the rain?..” This may be a rhetorical question, a rare few would say “no.”

“..when the sun shines, we’ll shine together.. told you I’ll be here forever, said I’ll always be a friend.. took an oath Imma stick it out till the end.. now that it’s raining more than ever, know that we’ll still have each other.. you can stand under my umbrella..” – Rihanna

Don’t get me wrong, there are also in existence the “ridaz” (slang explanation: people that will be by your side no matter what lol). Though they are few and sometimes far between, these are the ones you truly appreciate. This is the way life works, never has anything that is too big been totally loyal, not necessarily saying it’s 100% loyalty in small circles either. Anyways! We luck out and get these people in our lives that will not only be with you through all your drama, attitudes, and storms, but not care if you all have an umbrella. They just want to be where they said they would be, and that place is there.. for you! I can only speak for myself, but apart from God, those people in my life helped me learn what it means to cherish something. The only way to really have a good friendship is to also be a good friend. One must also be mindful as to personal ‘operations’ in dealing with people and maintain your own character. Many of us are known for seeking out qualities that we do not possess, let’s not do that!

5-Day Forecast? We are an instantaneous generation. We want everything right now! The idea of waiting 30 seconds for certain things might make us want to burst into flames. Am I over-exaggerating? Maybe, but how often have you waited 30 seconds for a website to upload, a channel to change, or have been on hold on a phone call. We want to know everything now. Waiting, is unfortunately becoming archaic. This mindset is becoming how we expect life to work. We need detailed predictions that are accurate, at least almost always. Just typing about this is pathetic lol.

Call me old-fashioned, but I like the anxiety of waiting and not knowing most times, especially when it comes to a love interest, ha ha. I love the nervousness and weird insecurity it brings because it is that exciting. Believe it or not, I somewhat feel this way about my storms. They aren’t bad every day, because I don’t allow it. Just as the saying is, “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade,” well, I say, “when life give you rain.. learn to play in it sometimes and grow!”

For those that know me, know that I am a big movie buff. I don’t watch television from the same perspective as everyone else. I try to understand the characters, the purpose of the script, etc. I always love pulling out quotes that are applicable. I don’t remember how it was said exactly, but in the movie “Troy”, Brad Pitt’s character says something about how the gods were jealous of humans, because we don’t know our fate and that it was more beautiful that way. I agree. For me, the uncertainty of life excites me, even when it hurts. In this way, I feel as though I truly live! Imagine how Noah felt when he saw rain for the first time.. one word: wow!

“..and I’ll praise you in this storm and I will lift my hands, for You are who You are no matter where I am and every tear I’ve cried, You hold in your hand.. You never left my side and though my heart is torn.. I will praise You in this storm..” – Casting Crowns

And remember.. after the rain, the sun shines and the rainbows come (the reminder of the Promise), but through the storm, the Son shines.. be encouraged!

-Signed, No Matter the Weather

“..I was alone, but You found me where I was hiding.. my love I’ve never left your side, I have seen you through the darkest nights, and I’m the One that’s loved you all your life..– Meredith Andrews

“..what you want might make you cry, what you need might pass you by if you don’t catch it.. when it hurts so bad, why does it feel so good?..” – Lauryn Hill

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