A Strong Woman

I would first like to state that the following is MY opinion… Now that is out of the way.. I shall proceed!

Someone posed the question: What is a “strong” woman?

That is a question asked many times with several implications, but I can only speak for myself, so my response is based on my own opinion, values, and religious beliefs. (There are several attributes of a “strong woman”” can also be said of a man by the way). I think a strong woman is one that embraces her femininity (womanliness). I believe that is very important because it seems that in our society to be “feminine” is equivalent to being “weak” and maybe that is due to a lack of understanding as to what true femininity is. And to embrace it, I mean accept and cherish what is natural. For example, women are naturally nurturers, some sweet, kind, vulnerable, like feeling protected, desires to protect, and a host of other wonderful things. Some might look at those things as weak because daintiness/softness doesn’t seem really strong to certain people. I disagree.

I believe it takes a strong person to humble themselves. It takes a strong person to admit that they are wrong. It takes a strong person to admit they need help. It takes a strong person to be open/vulnerable. It takes a strong person to accept who they are. And along with this strength there needs to be wisdom.

I am a young woman who has my own goals and future on my mind constantly. I am very ambitious, independent, outspoken and all that jazz, but I have NO problem with femininity. I don’t aspire to act manly for the sake of appearing strong, I am just fine in my own skin.

Most talk about a strong woman is usually focused around relationships. My personal view on male/female relationships will follow. I will address it from a husband/wife perspective, because that is the male/female relationship that I would hold to highest regard in this “debate” that usually stirs. I will limit it to 3 things.

  1. I have no problem submitting to a husband. This does not mean I am a “yes man”. This does not mean I don’t express my views or have no voice. This does not mean I am powerless. By submit, I am willing to allow my husband to lead our household. In my experience a lot of women have trouble grasping this concept because the men they have in their lives aren’t “good men” for lack of a better term.
  2. I have no problem serving a husband. I’m not interested in 50/50, but rather 100/100. I refuse to be the bitter wife that will only do what I think he deserves, because that isn’t what I signed up for. I have no problem treating my man like a king everyday and making it a goal in life to do it better everyday. I value marriage vows and other vows as well and don’t think they should be conditional. And that is a MAJOR reason I am very picky, selective, stuck-up, or whatever you want to call it about the man I decide is worth me giving up some things.
  3. I have no problem with compromise, it is not a curse word.  compromise -a settlement of differences by mutual concessions; an agreement reached by adjustment of conflicting or opposing claims, principles, etc., by reciprocal modification of demands. (Definition from dictionary.com). I was once told that there is a difference between being right and dead right. Sometimes it isn’t about whose right, but sometimes the greater thing at hand, whatever it may be. I refuse to let my foolish pride or attitude be a cancer to my marriage.

With all of that being said, pride does not equal strength and all my believers out there should know that very well. I try to choose my battles in life wisely and know my place as far as not stressing over things I cannot change, especially people. It is not my job or yours. And this is just in generalities, there is sooo much more that can be said. So it is pretty late and my thought are all over the place, so I will leave it here.

Signed, a super woman 🙂

  1. Seriously men in America still expect a woman to submit? I cant deal with a woman who doesnt have her own opinion. I could be alone for all that.

    • takeshavictoria
    • November 20th, 2009

    it depends on how u use the word submit

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